Theory of theories
Be yourself. This is the most important theory. The more you experience in life, the more sub-theories there will be. Sub-theories are meant to make you more efficient in different tasks and situations. But whenever I get confused or carried away, 'Be yourself' will not go wrong.
Whenever too obsessed with something
Detach yourself from it. It is not only useless, but also harmful. Having too much negative thoughts will only hinder you from progressing. Having too much optimistic thoughts will render you with big disappointment when things go wrongly. It has to be a balance between thorough consideration and over-thinking.
How to check whenever a task is completed
It do not have to be a tedious progress. The technique I use is 'Top-bottom', which I invented it myself. It is like looking from a top view, and scrutinizing only the most crucial things first to ensure they are right. For example, the final figure. Then slowly proceed into smaller details roughly, and scrutinize when you find something suspicious.
How to set Stop Loss
As for the remaining 7 trades, I adjusted some of the Stop-Losses. How I do it is by imagining that the losing trade makes a comeback. I need to give it enough space for the u-turn. If it exceeds my imagined u-turn limit, then the trade to me is a lost one.
Healthier looking hair
Update: Use conditioner after shampoo. See the conditioner as a 2nd agent to clean your hair from the stubborn wax.
Also, I recently had a hair cut, and I seem to look better without my side burn. The haircut I had was slope, and spiky on the top. Slope has different levels, and mine is no. 2.
- Wash hair with Dove shampoo (for damaged hair) after returning home.
- Towel dry and apply generous amount of pure Argan Oil (no alcohol) or Pure Virgin Olive Oil. For me, I press the pump at least 5 times. Think of it like using conditioner, and I need more especially that my dry hair needs to absorb more nutrients.
- Next day before going out, bathe yourself thoroughly with water. Ensure your hair softens, for easy styling.
- Apply Purple Gatsby wax after towel dry.
- Style according to the natural setting of my hair. You can test this by combing your hair behind with your fingers. Notice how the position the hair falls into. So if majority of your hair leans to the left side, do not force it to the right side with wax. It will make your hair look damaged (This is a very important step).
When going out with girlfriend
The main purpose of going out with her is to make her happy. When she is happy, you will also naturally become happy. It is the easiest way to find happiness.
Remember to hug her too. It cures negativity inside her, and it helps you too.
Socializing
update : Sometimes, socializing can become overwhelming and difficult. It is not always you have to be the voice in many situations. Sometimes, just become the quiet one. And after awhile, you can just say something to gain your confidence. But you can always be quiet sometimes.
Speak to gain confidence
My social style took a turn one day, when my friend asked his girlfriend along, and I felt awkward. I am not used to new people in the group, especially girls. Then after quite some time of being quiet, I suddenly felt that I just need to speak whenever there is a chance, to gain back my confidence, to be normal again.
I know that all the while, and I think it is common sense. But it was that special moment in my life that I felt, instilled the purpose in me when communicating with other people. It sort of broke one great barrier in my life, which is my social handicap.
And now, I also enjoy lunch times and gatherings with my colleagues and relatives even more. In the past, I will have certain hatred for certain people, and be offended by what some people says. But now, I speak more with strength and aggression, but not continuously. Many times I just be more calm and non-talkative, but when I speak, I gain confidence quickly, and also regain myself quickly. Not being overly talkative is also important, because it also lets other people to have a chance to speak.
Guess I just found my style of communicating, a style which is able to bring out more confidence and happiness in me. And I hope this is not just a short term thing, but it stays with me, and I can keep improving.
Update :
It is always good to start off as the quiet one first.
Then gradually apply the theory above.
This is so that you do not pile much pressure on yourself first, having to maintain the image of the social one.
So whenever you stop talking, things will not get weird, it will only seem like it was like how you started.
Update 2:
Only remember "speak to gain confidence"
It has all kinds of uses, when you are angry, sad, shy, etc.
You don't have to speak at all times, especially when you are unfamiliar with a topic.
When chances arise, just remember to 'speak to gain confidence'
Update 3 :
Sometimes when you dominated the conversation, and get angry when someone else hustles in, remember its humble beginnings.
Your purpose of speaking is just to gain confidence. Never mind if you need o keep quiet again. Sometimes there are others who know more about a toipic, or are more passionate about something. It is ok to listen, you may also gain something from it.
Just stick to your theory, and if it gains you momentum to dominate the group, so be it.
If not, just remember the roots of the theory, which is just to speak to gain confidence.
Bad breath
I thought that if i drink plenty or water, my mouth and wind pipe will be hydrated.
And therefore, the bacteria that is causing it will be flushed away. It is partly true, but the main problem remains.
The major cause of the bad breath is the accumulation of bacteria on my tongue. Hydrating my mouth may wash down the bacteria on the surface of my tongue, but the thick layer of bacteria still remains. So, the best solution is to brush my teeth.
Especially if you are going out after work. Keep a tooth brush and paste at your workplace. Brush your teeth and tongue before leaving the office. Most importantly, you remove the accumulated bacteria on your tongue.
Forex
Strategy is the same, Support and Resistance breakouts.
To enter the trade, set Stop above or below the zones.
The way to plant a Stop Loss when you enter the trade, is to visualize it going down and reviving again.
Monitor all trades daily, looking for opportunities and also adjusting current trades, if necessary.
Same theory for adjusting current trades also, use visualization to imagining it taking a dip, and reviving again. If it goes beyond what you imagined, then there is a chance that the trade is ready to change course and go against you.
When alone in public
If you want to feel more relaxed, don't look at anyone.
When you are feeling very negative
Just know the below :
After awhile, it will be ok
Theories I apply at Work
- How to do checking after work is done : Zoom out and see the bigger picture. When you zoom out, you will naturally look out for the most important things first, the things that matter. Following that, you can zoom into smaller details. But it always starts with zooming out first.
- People judge you mostly by your products. Do not be too bothered by acting like something all the time. The main thing is that if you can produce good products all the time, you are a good subordinate.
About sleeping
If you have a hard time trying to sleep, test if you can sleep first by sleeping facing upwards.
If you do not feel tired after around 20 minutes, get up and do something til you feel more tired.
Update : Do not sleep during the day.
When you feel tired using the computer, do not go to bed and sleep in the day.
It will mess up your night sleep timing.
Instead, just use your hands to support your head and sleep.
You will be so tired that you can sleep.
At the same time, it will not be so comfortable that you will have a good sleep.
If you sleep like this even for a few minutes and got woken up, it is harder to fall back to sleep.
And you will not crave sleeping anymore.
If you still crave it, repeat the process.
This is a good sleepy killer.
Learnt this from work, especially after lunch.
Pretending to rest your eyes for a few minutes.
When actually you are sleeping for a few minutes.
After being able to fall asleep sitting up, it will reset your alertness.
When reading
Sometimes, it is frustrating that I take too long to read, due to my mind being distracted. I realized that I can read better it I set my target at the bottom of the book, and want to finish the page as fast as possible.
Maturity
Sometime ago, I read a great article about what it means to be matured. One of the best thing I can remember about the article is that, when a person is matured, he has control over his own feelings, and do not allow other people of incident to affect it too much. It is about finding the things you like to do. You can just turn to them whenever you feel something does not deserve too much of your feeling and time.
Hairstyle
Undercut, sides high slope, top long, back just normal slope. Sometimes they may ask if you want the thinner or thicker undercut. Go for the thicker one, which is called no.2. The thinner one looks too punkish, and like a pirate.
How to style :
Use blue Gatsby hair jam
Sweep all long hair to the left
sweep the left side of long hair backwards
try to make the rest of the hair stand
then press it down lightly
then make some of the top of the hair stand
So the main effect will be, it is quite compressed, at the same time a bit of the top creating volume
Bathroom routine
Shampoo twice in one bath session once a week.
Exfoliate skin once a week.
Apply 2 pumps of Extraordinary oil to hair daily
Reading
The whole day I did not go out.
Felt a bit depressed, and went to smoke.
I realized that it is good for the mind.
Not because of the smoke, but because I get out of the house and everything is static.
Reading might also be able to produce the same calmness.
Or even better, as you gain knowledge.
So, the theory for reading should be knowing that it can help you relax your mind.
It is one good method to prevent your thoughts from running wild.
At the same time, it puts in you a calm state of mind.
Just know that when you read, you are helping to relax your mind too.
Relaxing is not about staying at home whole day and watching TV.
If you consistently enjoy in very visually active activities, your brain will not get any rest.
It will result in the build-up of stress, the opposite of calmness.
So, use reading to help you attain the relaxing state of mind.
Writing
Often in office, I face problems with writing reports.
I tend to give up easily, losing momentum to long and complicated sentences.
You train of thoughts get broken as you look back at the long sentence, thinking if it is beautifully penned down.
The trick is to write in point forms.
It is faster and more direct.
Direct in a way that what you write is what you think.
When you write, you should not have to think about how to phrase the sentence.
Therefore, writing in point form helps you achieve that.
Once you finished writing, you can always go back to rephrasing all that you wrote.
2 things I learnt in Army re-service about social
I took MC and excused myself from the 3 days outfield.
It changed the way I communicated with my friends.
I sounded more low profile, and more polite.
The feeling is like you did something bad, and you try to fit back into the group.
You are more humble, and when you speak, you speak with the purpose of pleasing other people.
Actually, I felt good, and also felt like this is quite a good way to communicate with people.
Before this, I was more out-spoken, and more confident and cocky at times.
But if you read the 48 laws of power, courtiers will actually speak the way I described earlier.
It is because, courtiers are plotting or have a target in mind.
They will either feel guilty, or don't want to rattle the grass, so that they can quietly move towards their target.
To me, when I go back to real life, with my office colleagues, I also have a different mindset when having lunch with them.
Not that I am scheming a move against them, or plotting some big moves.
The mindset I have after the re-service is that, I just want to fit into the group, and spend time with them.
Which brings me to my next point.
In army, there are moments when you are doing something, and people around you start talking.
The other important thing I learnt is that, this sort of chatting is paramount to what you are doing.
Unless you are saving someone's life or solving a big issue.
When people around you start having a conversation, you look aloft if you just carrying on what you are doing.
It sounds very conformist.
But the crucial thing is that, you might be drawing attention to yourself when you are doing something different what everyone is doing.
And also, conversations are great!
It is actually the most important thing in life.
There would be no mother love without conversation. (think there is, but may not be as strong)
There is no partner love without conversation. (maybe there also is, I think mute people falls in love)
There is no friendship without conversation. (again, maybe you can use hand signs).
The thing is that, communicating should be one of the best moments of your life.
Your human relationships, make you feel human, and existing in the world that someday we will not be around.
During the re-service, it is also very hot.
The conditions there are unbearable, and everyone is hoping that time pass fast, so that they can go back to their bunks.
And conversations, are the best way to pass time.
It feels good that sometimes, you felt like "o, it is already 6pm!"
Conversations are the best form of entertainment, one of if you think about sex.
In army, conversations help you gain knowledge, makes you laugh, lets you express yourself, helps you build relationships, etc.
Previously, in terms of social, I thought the best way is to "speak to gain confidence".
Sometimes, it has pressure, when there is silence, you tend to want to find something to speak.
And also, sometimes you sound more aggressive, and offending when you try to force your thoughts into a discussion.
Now I feel that it does not really matter.
I just want to fit into a group, and it does not matter if I really like them a not.
When I socialize, I will remember the 2 points above.
But no matter what, there is no best way other than 'Be yourself'.
The 2 points above taught me a good learning experience.
But the only thing I have to remember is to be yourself.
When you fit in, there are many people that it is new to you.
They might intimidate you, make you weak, all kinds.
As long as you fit in, your mind will get used to them, and eventually you will have the experience to speak to many different types of people, and many different types of group.
Update : The previous post I made about socializing is still relevant.
In fact, very important.
It is the one that says the purpose of speaking is to gain confidence.
It is needed in situations where you feel fearful, or you feel irritated.
Maybe when you do not like what the person is saying, or maybe you just don't like the person.
I am not saying to argue with you or give him a scolding.
Or rather, it is very important to be able to voice your thoughts.
It is important you do so to stop your spiral down into depression.
Yes, I get depressed when suppressed in silence.
1 thing I learnt from my previous relationship
I am not sure about other people, but I always have bad thoughts.
Previously, I always let them spoil my day, and my relationship.
I always have to tell my ex what they are.
It is like exam results which you failed, and needed to get your parents to sign it.
I am a lot happier now.
It is part of me, and for me, it is natural to have it.
Even more so as I am a very analytic person, and I may have a trillion more thoughts than other people.
Unlike last time, I do not say them out, every time a brain cell just produces something that comes into my conscious.
The more you are afraid of them, the more you will think about them.
Just that it as it is natural as humans.
The main thing is that I am a lot happier now, once I know it is natural to have them.
Exercising
I do exercise to make myself look nicer.
Especially when I want to feel confident when I go to work, go make my girl friend proud of going out with a better looking person.
Some pointers:
Listen to loud music before starting.
Any kind of music, just blast it louder.
Better still with a superb bassy sound system.
My Creative Sound Blaster Roar does the job.
Loud music will make you want to move.
I was from tired, to motivated.
I do exercise with a floor and dumbbell.
It is configured for my body, for my weak areas.
I train my shoulders, back , chest and biceps.
Particular my shoulders and biceps.
They will determine how thin I look.
I only do 3 exercises.
Hindu push-up (for shoulders), normal push-ups (for back, chest and also training for the new IPPT system), and bicep curl.
If you know what muscles you are training, you will naturally do it slower, and also more correctly.
It is because you are thinking about the muscle, and also adjusting your body to help pump the muscle you are targeting.
Soccer
Relax - most of the time. You conserve energy, and also remain calmer.
Run to spaces - when in your team is in possession. You do not need to look at your team mate, just focus on finding space for yourself.
Update :
2 theories, one is still to run into spaces.
When our team is in possession, run to open spaces so that people can pass to you. Evade the markers, and be visible to person with the ball.
The other theory is when we don't have the ball. What you can do is do marking. It helps your team to get everyone covered, and also increase your chance of winning back the ball.
Dota 2
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